Hello & Welcome To The World Of Habit Change!
Habits are behaviours done in context, which we have repeated so often they have become the accepted norm for us, They come in many forms, and often originate for a positive reason.
For example, we habitually wash our hands before handling food, in order to keep us safe from germs, or we look left and right while crossing the road, to keep us safe from traffic.
Habits usually start for a positive reason, such as to alleviate pain, help us relax, to fit into a social group, or to feel good. But not all habits remain positive, or even useful. What starts off as social habits, such as smoking, drinking or gambling to fit into a peer group, may one day become unhealthy, anti-social, or simply too expensive for you to wish to continue with them. The habit of comfort eating, to cheer yourself up or feel good about yourself, may lead to weight problems and obesity, with a host of related health issues, including diabetes and high blood pressure.
By far the most disabling habit is negative self-talk. We tell ourselves things like "I am not good enough", "I can't", "I am a failure" and "I go to pieces when I have to speak in public". Negative self-talk erodes our self-esteem and commonly leads to some of the other habits previously mentioned. Stopping negative self-talk is one of the most empowering things you can ever do.
If any of the above sounds familiar, and you want to change, then this is the right place for you!
Since retiring from a 30+ year career as a Registered General Nurse & Registered Mental Health Nurse in the UK & NZ, my vision has been to help people, just like you, to change habits.
My habit change toolkit includes Hypnotherapy, VGB Weight Loss Hypnosis, NLP, Life Coaching Tai Chi and Personal Training, which alone and/or in combination enable me to empower you!
Out with the old & in with the new
The positive consequence of stopping old, unwanted habits, is that it opens up your mind to new possibilities and realities e.g. "I can lose weight!" or "I am a non-smoker now!"
When you stop doing old, unwanted habits you suddenly have an abundance of time, which is freed from the time you used to spend doing those habits, and this extra time can take the pressure off your busy day.
If your old, unwanted habits were expensive, such as smoking, drinking and gambling, then you may find that after you stop, then you actually have more money left too. Win-win!
We can also help you then create new, more useful habits, such as the belief "I am a confident public speaker" or "I am calm, relaxed and sleep well at night"
The Two Wolves Inside
This is a wise teaching often attributed to the Cherokee of the North American continent
Imagine an elder talking to his grandson about life.
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.
The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
CALL ANDREW on 0211532508 NOW to feed the right wolf inside you!
Please listen to Andrew's interview with NZAPH President Meredith McCarthy from 17 Aug 18
I have always enjoyed working with people, and trying to improve their quality of life. That's why it was no surprise that I spent nearly 40 years as a Registered General Nurse, Registered Mental Health Nurse, and as Project Managers and Quality Managers in hospitals in both the UK and NZ.
But despite all my experience in primary healthcare, one day I realised I had gotten stuck thinking the (Same Old, Same Old) SO-SO thoughts, saying the SO-SO negative beliefs about myself, and doing the SO-SO routine, day in, day out. I was burning out in my job, too tired, anxious, stressed, irritable, irrational, and afraid to see alternatives, and yet desperately looking for ways to move forward.
I wanted to stop doing SO-SO thoughts, words and actions, and to replace them with new habits which empowered me personally and professionally. Most people, when they realise this, would turn to primary healthcare, their doctors, hospitals etc. But I was working in that system and realised they did not always have the all the answers.
Switching my career to Hypnotherapy has opened up my world, and changed everything!
That was 10 years ago. In the decade since realising that, I have embraced Hypnotherapy and many other therapies complementary to mainstream medicine and primary healthcare. Now I utilise my own experiences in order to help you to make changes too, if you're willing to work with me to get the goals you seek. Today I help people just like you, to make changes with Hypnotherapy, NLP, Life Coaching and Tai Chi, underpinned by nearly 4 decades of nursing.
What you can expect as my client
I like to be frank and honest with the people I work with, so here's a reality check to help you decide whether or not to become my client. Firstly, if I do not believe I can help you I will say so, as I don't claim that I can "fix" 100% of people, nor to "fix" people 100% of the time. Nor do I claim to be a 'healer' that can help you get to your goals in just one session, as if with a simple snap of my fingers. In fact, during three decades of nursing experience I learned that not everything, and not everyone, can be fixed. Doctors and nurses see that all the time, so for anyone to make such claims are nonsense! So I don't make those claims, no. In fact I am a realist, and as such I prefer to say that I can help you to change your mind and body so that you can work towards your goals, and that I will help you to do that in as few sessions as possible. I will endevour to utilise evidence based practice, whenever relevant evidence exists. I also prefer to utilise a project management style approach to the services I provide, with measurable outcomes for your goals. But I must point out that the responsibility for completing your journey rests with you.
I am a retired General Nurse & Mental Health Nurse with 37 years experience, & former Quality Manager & Project Manager in 2 of Wellington's hospitals. I use these experiences to underpin my practice as a Clinical Hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner, Life Coach & Tai Chi Instructor.
Trainer at NZ School of Hypnotherapy (NZSPH)
Member of NZ Association of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NZANLP)
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